This is a common dilemma for brides marrying at any age. To include children at your wedding or not. Whether or not you or your spouse have any children from a previous marriage, it is an important issue to discuss before your invitations are sent. You may want to include children as the flower girls and boys at your wedding ceremony. If this is the case, you may choose to invite other young ones to attend just the ceremony.
Young children can be charming and cute at your wedding ceremony. However, for your formal reception in the evening, which is indeed an adult event adding young children might create problems.
Many private clubs will not accept the responsibility for children at their venue and will state it clearly in your contract. This is especially true when alcohol will be served.
There are certain receptions that are exceptions, especially if they are more casual or outdoors.
If one of you already have young children and there is a group of young children from your siblings or cousins about the same age, you can add a special children’s table with activities to keep them busy with a baby sitter or young adult in charge.
In this case, most venues will let you order pizza, chicken fingers or pasta ahead of time for the children. This will reduce your food expenses since they wont be eating filet mignon or sea bass!
Unless children are carefully monitored by their parents, there is a strong likelihood of a catastrophe developing during your reception. In unfamiliar territory, children get restless and could run away or get lost. They can also disturb other guests or become out of control with a melt down if they don’t have enough attention or develop a sugar high from eating too many sweets.
If you have family or friends coming from out-of-town and want to make your wedding a family vacation as well, let them know ahead of time and mention the children are welcome at your ceremony but the venue does not accommodate young children at the reception or other adult pre-wedding events and offer to find them a babysitter.
When our daughter was married in a destination wedding a couple of years ago, the venue allowed for her sister’s children to be her attendants. However after the ceremony, they were taken to our home for dinner and a movie. They had a wonderful time with a babysitter and could be children instead of having to sit down and “behave” for the evening!
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