When you first meet, fall in love and then begin the “honeymoon phase” every relationship has…What are the signs you know you have a relationship that will last?
Reflecting on the countless dating adventures before meeting my husband, I thought about what has made our marriage and relationship last and continue to grow. How has it been different than the other men?
Here are my theories:
You are similar in many ways:
I have always heard that opposites attract, but according to my research on this point of view this dissimilar personality traits creates only short term happiness. The reason why? These personality differences eventually tire of one another and become more of an irritation.
So to develop a long-term relationship as we have, similar personalities seem to fare better. So don’t judge too early that date who seems boring and always dependable. He may just be your knight in shining armor!
Your partner does NOT give you butterflies:
I always thought this was the sign of true love. The flutter in your heart and the intense chemistry attraction. However I now know that butterflies after the first few dates are a sign of insecurity in one of the partners or other anxieties that may have nothing to do with me. Time to let go!
Always showing Affection & Loving Gestures:
According to the Intimacy studies by the Berman Center for Women’s Health in Chicago, couples who kiss regularly, hold hands and hug for no reason have a closer emotional connection than those who skimp on cuddling outside the bedroom. They also have less stress. According to another study from Oxford University, couples who kiss and hug regularly are happier than those who don’t. By the way, this has nothing to do with sex, just touching and loving each other.
According to a study from the University of Georgia, “Expressions of gratitude was the most consistent significant predictor of marital quality.” This one simple quality seems easy enough to integrate into a relationship. However there are all those times your partner will drive you crazy with personal irritations and you feel anything but grateful!
Maintaining a positive outlook for your future together even through difficult times helped couples to more than likely stay together. If this optimism about your relationship wavers and dies, oftentimes couples do not feel as strong a commitment to keep the relationship going.
Looks don’t really matter:
Always longing for the tall handsome man like a Cary Grant or woman like Courtney Cox may not signify that your relationship will be perfect!
A comfortable Income:
One study suggests that income over a comfortable level doesn’t impact the success of a relationship. Instead as long as you can pay your bills, you don’t need fancy cars, the biggest home in your neighborhood or fancy trips overseas to be happy.
Strong Social Life:
Sharing your relationship experiences with other couples will enhance and expand your happiness as a couple because this type of bonding makes individuals feel less alone in whatever challenges they are facing.
However, the biggest indicator we think a relationship will last is whether or not you choose an agreeable partner!
Tell its what you have experienced…and please come back soon!
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